Why does a new mother need emotional support?

You have probably heard that in the days after birth many new mums feel low and out of sorts. Do not be alarmed. This is a natural state known as the baby blues, and it usually lasts only a few weeks. During this time mums often need more care and attention. Our article looks at what can help you find your emotional balance in this period.

A few words about the baby blues 

First, let’s consider what you can do yourself as a new mum if you feel more down than usual. We hope that by shedding light on the reasons, we can offer some reassurance.

The baby blues is a completely natural state linked to hormonal changes. During pregnancy your body produces oestrogen, which drops sharply straight after birth. At the same time your body begins producing prolactin, the hormone that supports milk production.

These changes contribute to feeling more tired and frustrated, and you may find yourself getting worked up about almost anything. Professionals also list symptoms such as:

• intense sadness and frequent tears

• fear and anxiety, always expecting the worst

• irritability, snapping easily

• marked mood swings

What can you do yourself Practical tips 

The first step is accepting what is happening. The baby blues is common and almost every new mum goes through it. Try to be patient with yourself. Do not give yourself a hard time. A day or two that feels tougher is not the end of the world.

Give yourself time to adjust. Only days ago you had a big bump and perhaps could barely move, and now you are holding a tiny baby in your arms. Everything has changed, and adapting takes time.

Be a “good enough mother” 

Have you heard the phrase “good enough mother” This concept, coined by paediatrician and psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott, means you do not have to be perfect. It is enough to give what you realistically can.

Keep this in mind so you do not feel crushed by expectations from yourself, your partner, family, those around you or society. You do not need to listen to everyone, only to your instincts, to build a close bond between you and your baby. Respond to your baby’s needs. Feed when they are hungry, help them sleep when they are tired, offer a cuddle when they are chilly or unsettled.

You will instinctively give your baby what is best, whether that is feeding, care or dressing. For example, you are doing the right thing if you choose clothing that is comfortable for your baby. Extra soft bamboo sleepsuits and bodysuits are well suited to sensitive skin, cooling in summer and cosy in winter.

How can those around a new mum help? 

Close family, especially the baby’s father, can do a lot to support a new mum emotionally. The first weeks are demanding for him as well, because the changes affect everyone, yet it is important to be thoughtful and patient with mum. If possible, share the housework and give her some time for herself. Take the baby out for a walk now and then, or take on bath time.

Grandparents and friends can help wherever they can, and not with unsolicited advice. Sometimes a kind, heart to heart chat is enough. Let mum talk about her feelings and fears. For once, let it be mum, not baby, who is centre stage.

It can also be a lovely gesture to help with practical items and bigger baby essentials, because time for shopping is short in this season. For a newborn visit, a bamboo toddler sleeping bag with legs makes a great gift. It promises soft, snuggly sleep and is very practical. With a sleep bag baby will not kick off their covers at night, so mum can rest more easily, lifting one more worry from her shoulders.

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Sources:

NHS — Postnatal depression and the baby blues

NCT — Baby blues: what it is and how to cope